Just got a phone call from hubby.
Nicholas (3 year old) was having a melt down.
He didn't want to go to school today.
Background: This year is the first year that he's not in the same building all day. He starts at one school, gets on a van, rides about 3 miles, and then finishes the day at an after-school program. It's a LONG DAY for him. And me being the put-together, everything is great mommy, OF COURSE has not let on that it kills me that he has to do this. Back to the story...
Hubby says that I need to talk to Nicholas.
NICHOLAS (crying): Mommy I don't want to go to school.
Me: Why not, baby?
NICHOLAS (crying worse): I don't like the blue school and the red school.
Me: Tell me why you don't like your new schools.
NICHOLAS (still crying): It's too long to go to two schools all day, mommy.
Me (now crying but trying to pretend that I'm not): I know, baby, but your teachers are nice and....(can't remember the rest...but I'm sure that it was a bunch of lies wrapped in happy words to make him feel better...)
Of course, I'm at work when this happens, and immediately feeling like so small. Things running through my head like: OK, well, I'll quit, and we can sell the Honda, and be a one car family. I could do grocery shopping after Josh gets home. We can go without health insurance for me and Josh and just get it for the boys...and we could do less cable, or less cell phone, or something...
Meanwhile, Hubby calls back.
He's talked Nicholas into school.
All is well.
For today.
My heart is still breaking for my little boy.
Today being a mommy really stinks.
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I'm so sorry {{{hugs}}}; being a mom is tough!
Dianne, feeling for you, Hon! Those days are just horrendous to go through! Hoping that he gets more comfortable with the two schools soon.
I know exactly what you are going through. Yesterday was the first day of Kindergarten and everything was fine. This morning we walk into the lobby of the school and three kids are crying and hanging on their moms. I look down, knowing I'm late for work, and see my daughter is scared and has tears in her eyes and she says "Don't worry, I won't hang on you. I know you have to go to work." I felt like total crap and still do.
Dianne, I'm so sorry!! I went through it with my boys too. They all go through that phase. I'm sure he will be fine soon! Kids are pretty resilient. You are a great mom!! :)
{{Dianne}}
I remember my son's kindergarten teacher telling us that the week after Labor Day is the hardest for kids, because now school seems much more real and much less fun. But they settle in soon after.
Hang in there, darlin'.
{{hugs}} Guess there's not much I can say to ease your feelings, but just know that we've all been there :) Even though we all want to be supermom, we're human and sometimes it's hard...you're doing a great job.
It just breaks my heart to read this!!! You poor thing.
If I can respectfully give my two cents. I quit work when my son was small. I thought we would have to live on food stamps, however I was surprised at how much we saved by me being home. We ate out less, no day care expenses, and the taxes were definitely less. We did make sacrifices. One car for a long time, an apartment for 4 years, and we didn't have as many "things", but I have never regretted it for a second. I even started homeschooling my kids 4 years ago, so they are with me 24/7, and I am loving it.
I think this is a very personal decision and should not be seen as the answer for everyone, but should you choose to stay home, I think you will find it very rewarding.
Have a better day.
Oh Dianne, it's ok. Kids are resilient and he'll get used to the routine soon. Just as a sidenote, I was the kid of two hard-working parents who did the two-school thing. I got into my groove, made new friends and made sure to have plenty to keep me busy. As a grown-up, I can appreciate how hard they worked to provide for me. I know it's tough though because he's just a little kid but it'll be ok.
Oh, do I remember those days. My heart goes out to you because it really get to you when you hear those cries. Things will be better for him soon. But hugs to you until he does.
Awww. I feel so bad for the little guy and for mom. It's really hard sometimes isn't it. That's one of the reasons I didn't work for many years and that was hard too. Great for the kids but hard on the budget. He'll get over it eventually and be fine but in the meantime, big ((HUGS)) for you both!
I know how you feel--my daughter cried every day for about 6 months when she started preschool. Funny thing was, her teachers said she stopped crying about 30 seconds after I left. Kids adapt very quickly (more so than parents).
Oh wow I am sooooooo sorry for you and your little boy! I remember hating school and being scared I wouldn't find my classroom and it was so hard making new friends. I wish you could find a different school for him with a different schedule. I haven't had a car during the week in 9 long years and never get to go anywhere, so I know you would hate not having both of your cars. See if you can transfer him to a better place. I wish I could help. Maybe things will get better as time goes on at school. I so hope so for you both!
Dianne,
{{hugs}}. It's hard. My son cried every day for the first month of first grade. I thought I was going to have a nervous breakdown before it got better...but it did get better and he has adjusted very well to second grade. Hope things get better quickly for all of you. Hang in there.
Makes me want to cry too when I read this ! I remember feeling the same way as you do.
Hang in there. Hope things will get better when he has new friends :)
(((HUGS)))
That's why I'm so lucky that in my career, there are no weekends, no holidays, just work 24/7 and 365.
I work weekends, so that I can stay home with my kids through the week and then their Daddy is home with them on the weekends. I don't like working weekends, but you gotta give in one area so that another can be filled.
To make you feel better my nephew just went through a episode like this and his Mama called me all upset too. The next day and ever since then...its been fine. They just went with the routine and didn't back down...it will even with your son too, I'm sure :) Thinking of you....
And all the things you mentioned..well that is exactly what we have done so I could be home. It has been well worth it. My kids are 21,17, and 16...i would not change a thing. I had been a teacher but when my kids came along...I took on the hard job of raising them at home. Hope things get better for you. Dianntha
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